"Nothing is going to compare to this," she said. "This is pretty epic."
A girl named "Chrissy" said that. A reader recently found the link to Chrissy's interview and sent it to me; and although I'm pretty sure it's now a year or two old, I thought it was worthy of discussion... Especially since the 2016 "epic" event is hanging over us like a bucket of tar.
So what did Chrissy do? Did she develop the cure for diabetes? Win a gold medal at the Olympics? Save a life?
The link revealed Chrissy with her two buddies, showcasing their assets (pun intended) on the cover of The Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue. You've seen those covers, I'm sure.
To Chrissy, that's "epic". Being in the world of soft-core porn is "epic". Being reduced to a few body parts is "epic". Being the focus of millions of male fantasies is "epic". And more's the pity - but at least she's far enough removed from the results of her epic adventure as to be totally unaffected by what she did.
The problem is, those results will be visited on innocent women and children, because the males who will be fantasizing about Chrissy and her pals will then look at the women in their own lives. Then, they will compare them to Chrissy's "epic" standard, which is one that the women had better meet, or else.
Sure, the "or else" isn't always (overt) violence; but too often, it is - because from living inside their fantasies of perfect looks and perpetual submission, guys with a porn hobby tend to get frustrated with real life, real quick.
And even if they don't turn violent, they turn angry. They walk around with a simmering hostility that kills relationships and families, because they train themselves to never tolerate frustration. They decide that the denial of their desires, in any arena of life, is an epic injustice. After all, they just know that females like Chrissy would be nicer to them. Make them feel good. Adore them without question, reflection, or complaint.
This is one of those truths that everyone knows, but no one cares about - not until it impacts their own lives. And soon the models' body parts will again be featured at retail outlets everywhere, mainstreamed into a culture that seeks escape from the very reality it so eagerly perpetuates. And SI will make another fortune, Chrissy and her BFF's will get famous, and who-knows-how-many women and children will walk on eggshells around an angry, tuned-out husband/daddy - one who seems to hate Mommy - wondering why nothing about them seems to get his approval. Or even his interest.
Maybe I should feel some compassion for the Chrissy-types of the world. I don't. Maybe I should care about the males who will use her to escape their weaknesses. I can't. They are two sides of the same coin, living within their imaginations. They each use the other for their own gain, and their communion normalizes contempt for women - to the point where being displayed as body parts, used for entertainment, is considered "epic".
Yeah, it's epic. An epic fail.
Jenna Brooks is a Divorce Coach specializing in post-domestic violence and Maternal Alienation, and is the author of the critically acclaimed October Snow series. She welcomes your comments through her website, Jenna Brooks Online.